Some years ago I had to confront my own preferences and hesitance toward bi men. Just settled for “it’s just my preference.” But why? That “why” will force you to uncover prejudices you didn’t even know you had. Ways you subtly perpetuated patriarchal ideals. Unsettling but also an opportunity to further deconstruct the patriarchy.
I didn't realise when women were saying that down low men were dangerous, they meant dangerous to them. I always thought they meant dangerous to the gay men who knew they weren't straight
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! Im sooo sick of seeing so many straight women just repackage homophobia over and over again. Dont even get me started on how DL man discourse harms bisexual men too 😭😭
I actually just wrote a piece touching on this exact dynamic ~ how dismissing women’s concerns as ‘homophobic’ or ‘transphobic’ often silences necessary conversations around boundaries, safety, and truth. It’s titled ‘Does the New Patriarchy Come with Bows, Lip Gloss, and XY Chromosomes?’ Check it out here: https://open.substack.com/pub/catchabbie/p/5d7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5fdz8n— curious to hear your take once you’ve read it.
Some years ago I had to confront my own preferences and hesitance toward bi men. Just settled for “it’s just my preference.” But why? That “why” will force you to uncover prejudices you didn’t even know you had. Ways you subtly perpetuated patriarchal ideals. Unsettling but also an opportunity to further deconstruct the patriarchy.
bar after bar 💅🏻each sentence had me nodding along, thank you for sharing this piece
I definitely agree! I was nodding my head and of course had to pause and reflect. This was an amazing writing of art. 🌺🥰
And ateeeeeeee the gworlsss uppp💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽
I didn't realise when women were saying that down low men were dangerous, they meant dangerous to them. I always thought they meant dangerous to the gay men who knew they weren't straight
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! Im sooo sick of seeing so many straight women just repackage homophobia over and over again. Dont even get me started on how DL man discourse harms bisexual men too 😭😭
I actually just wrote a piece touching on this exact dynamic ~ how dismissing women’s concerns as ‘homophobic’ or ‘transphobic’ often silences necessary conversations around boundaries, safety, and truth. It’s titled ‘Does the New Patriarchy Come with Bows, Lip Gloss, and XY Chromosomes?’ Check it out here: https://open.substack.com/pub/catchabbie/p/5d7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5fdz8n— curious to hear your take once you’ve read it.
WELL.
Okayyy I really enjoyed and learnt a lot from reading this