This piece was amazing!!!! And so similar to some pieces I've posted on my own Substack. I keep hearing that women never really grow up but stay teenagers forever, then they go and have children and pass down that sentiment to other people. If we want better for children, we are going to do what alot of people are not willing to do and grow up.
Oh this is so good, thank you. I'm also thinking of how this happens with parents who pressure their adult children especially women to have children because they want grandchildren, meanwhile they haven't reconciled with how their parenting affected said children and those grandchildren will only carry on generational trauma if the adult children aren't healing.
As someone who made it to nearly 39 without a child, and is now surprise-pregnant, I appreciate the truths in this blog. I’m glad I got to a point where I’d achieved my version of happiness, success and (relative) self awareness and acceptance before embarking on this new era of responsibility.
I’m still glad I had an abortion many years ago, when I had no material or emotional ability to provide for my offspring.
And I’m still terrified for my current baby. I question the ethics of bringing her into such a messed up world.
A society is sick when it values reproduction, yet provides no infrastructure to support children once they’re out of the womb. We must advocate harder for a better world. Your idea of adopting an older child is commendable, and something more people who have that ability should consider doing.
This piece was amazing!!!! And so similar to some pieces I've posted on my own Substack. I keep hearing that women never really grow up but stay teenagers forever, then they go and have children and pass down that sentiment to other people. If we want better for children, we are going to do what alot of people are not willing to do and grow up.
Oh this is so good, thank you. I'm also thinking of how this happens with parents who pressure their adult children especially women to have children because they want grandchildren, meanwhile they haven't reconciled with how their parenting affected said children and those grandchildren will only carry on generational trauma if the adult children aren't healing.
As someone who made it to nearly 39 without a child, and is now surprise-pregnant, I appreciate the truths in this blog. I’m glad I got to a point where I’d achieved my version of happiness, success and (relative) self awareness and acceptance before embarking on this new era of responsibility.
I’m still glad I had an abortion many years ago, when I had no material or emotional ability to provide for my offspring.
And I’m still terrified for my current baby. I question the ethics of bringing her into such a messed up world.
A society is sick when it values reproduction, yet provides no infrastructure to support children once they’re out of the womb. We must advocate harder for a better world. Your idea of adopting an older child is commendable, and something more people who have that ability should consider doing.