Most men are unlovable

A man’s emotional resume has never impressed me enough…

A man’s emotional resume has never impressed me enough to be anything, but superficial. It was either a pitch, a performance, or potential for how they want their emotional capacity to be perceived yet it was hardly ever how they showed up. Like a cover letter, not lived experience.

Lack of consistency is the usual suspect that exposed the aspirational desires to seem more in tune with their emotions than they really were. And their ambiguous EQ relies heavily on the imagination/idolization of women to fill in the rest of the blanks for them.

Projecting maturity, masculinity, and morality onto men who wouldn’t exist had their mother had high self esteem.

Ya know not to be mean either but rather serious to the topic at hand because if you’re left doing all the interpreting, you’re probably also doing all the emotional labor. And look how exhausting that is…

That’s what makes patriarchy so fucked up because it rigged natural selection in their favor and blames women for the results. In an upcoming article, I’ll be exploring the long term societal effects of abusers reproducing and the violence needed to maintain a patriarchal society. I digress!

And the wild part is, they know it. Maybe not consciously. But they know how much they’re relying on women to feel emotionally competent. They know they’re being carried. That’s why when you stop interpreting, stop softening, stop doing the work of making their half-developed feelings look whole—they call you difficult. Detached. Disrespectful. Because without your emotional scaffolding, their self-image collapses.

Despite them rigging natural selection, in return they’ve created their own man-made selection called, male loneliness epidemic. We’re witnessing for the first time ever men become socially and emotionally independent from women and THEY ARE STRUGGLING.

It’s not that they don’t have feelings. It’s that they’ve never been taught how to hold themselves without outsourcing the weight to somebody else. So when you hand it back, they call it abandonment. But what they’re really feeling is exposure.

And I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t include women the conversation! Women need to be just as urgent about becoming financially and spiritually independent from men as men are about detaching emotionally from women. Traditional values don’t mix with modern times. The moment women got access to their own bank accounts was the beginning of the patriarchy’s economic collapse.

What comes next is messy and uncertain but inevitable. As the old systems crumble, what we’re really witnessing is a forced evolution. Men who’ve long leaned on emotional outsourcing now face the hard work of self-containment. It’s a reckoning with loneliness, vulnerability, and accountability — things patriarchy trained them to avoid or deny. But it’s damn sure necessary.

And anything you give women they multiply by ten. Meaning we uphold, reinforce, and defend systems that are taught, basically the gatekeepers of culture. Woman by proxy are the patriarchy and the patriarchy fucked up with letting the male loneliness epidemic fester cause women are about to reinforce that shit.

If you think you’re lonely now, wait until tonight 😂 sorry just had to get that out.

So now both sides are standing in their respective voids. Men in their silence. Women in their exhaustion. And no one’s coming to save either. Obviously some women will keep playing the game. Keep nurturing grown men. Keep interpreting potential as depth. Maybe because the safest place for them to be is under a man since they cannot critically think for themselves.

Obviously some men will keep rebranding old traditional tactics into modern ones. Keep manipulating for sex. Keep being used as a piggy banks. Maybe because the safest place for them to be is under a man since they cannot critically think for themselves.

And here we are, full circle. Just like that emotional resume that never quite added up, the whole system is built on performances and potentials that rarely show up as real lived experience.